Generally this is not something I would blog about but I know there are others out there that have trouble with this in relationships.. therefore after reading something I wrote some time ago ABBA Father is urging me to post it… This can go both ways.. in a relationship/marriage/cohabit or other wise even boyfriend and girlfriend… Personal experience through out my entire life along with some research prompted me to write this.. I pray that the message is clear to those in this kind of environment and get the heck out of it … Firstly you cannot change them… Secondly if you think that you can help them you are mistaken… Thirdly if you think it is all your fault then you likely need help yourself to deal..
Alcoholism is a disease and can destroy the functionality of the human body.
Yet they stay in denial continually saying, “I can’t help it” “I didn’t drink that much” “I wasn’t drunk”. It destroys the individual, relationships and marriages. Any one married to a drunk knows the turmoil they put you through. Unhappiness low self esteem and frustration as they suck the life out of you and is the end result of trying to deal with a drunk. Alcoholics are killing themselves with a slow death … when all of a sudden they start getting sick and then blame it on something else and think alcohol is going to fix it. It dehydrates your body causing headaches and kills brain cells. They don’t even have time to regenerate those brain cells when they drink all the time.. They will lash out at you at the smallest of things. This is not a relationship… it is abuse… I have done enough research on this subject to know what it does to all your organs. The liver is the largest organ in the human body and it is used as a filtering system. When that goes the whole system is going to shut down causing other diseases… Ever wonder why for decades they have promoted and legalized it’s use? Cause the PTB know it is a money maker in every category.. through sales, fines, jail time and death.
As believers we are to be of sober mind … a drunk is not sober and the WORD tells us to refrain from strong drink.. that does not mean that you lay off the hard liquor and drink beer.. Beer has a lot of yeast in it and that in itself causes a lot of problems… too much yeast is not good for the human body..Look up Candida…
1Corinthians 5:6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
1Corinthians 5:7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:
We are to take care of our bodies to the best of our ability not abuse them. The words coming out of a drunks mouth are all of the filthy flesh in ignorance and belligerents.
Proverbs 23:21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.
1Corinthians 5:11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such a one no not to eat.
Ephesians 5:18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
Revelation 22:11 He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still.
If you have anything to add to this through your own experience please feel free to comment so others will be aware of the danger they are in staying in this type of relationship.
SWORD OF TRUTH 
I’ll keep this short and sweet. As a child of an alcoholic I see first hand what it does to a family. I have and still am watching my parents’ marriage self-destruct. My father is a good man, but he changes for the worse when he drinks. When he wants to drink, he becomes unbelievably selfish, and will do anything to drink, even if it means putting his own children in danger. He will use any event or situation as an excuse to drink, a party, wedding, even when someone in the family is gravely ill and he needs to “forget about it for a while”. Take it from me, you CAN’T change him/her. I spent YEARS thinking I could stop my father from drinking. If I could get him to think about us he’d change his ways. But I’ve realized he won’t. I’ve accepted that he is the way he is. I DON’T LIKE IT, but I can’t stop him. I won’t mention my mother as it is not my place to tell her story. I can only tell you mine, but I can tell you, there is no worse pain for a child then to watch her parents slowly begin to hate each other.
And that’s my story, It’s a summary, but hopefully, it is enough to get you to realize that there is nothing YOU can do to stop someone you love from drinking. They choose to do this. All you can do is accept their choice, and move on. If, like me, you are unable for whatever reason to leave the situation right now, distance yourself from it as best you can. Don’t hate your loved one, hate what he/she does. If they drink, get yourself out of harms way, even if that means going into your bedroom and locking the door. If you share the bed with a loved one, well, I have no advice for you, except, perhaps try and sleep separately until he/she sobers up. Find somebody you can talk to. You are not alone, there are others who know your pain.
I pray you will finally find peace from your pain, and that you will, however you can, free yourself from the situation.
Much love and blessings to you all. Thank you, Barbie, for allowing me to speak.
I hear every word you spoke and I appreciate everything you said.. many are in this situation .. and even wondered why we put up with it. Every situation is slightly different but is still the same and you gave some very sound advice for those not able to leave home.. As a daughter, mother, wife and grandmother I have seen it first hand in many situations..it definitely is not fun and relationships become distant and their is no LOVE left for the one who is drinking obsessively.. Much love to you too and you are welcome..